An ancient fable has it that Truth and Falsehood both went for a swim in the
Sea of Humanity, leaving their clothes ashore. Falsehood came out of the water first and put on Truth’s clothes. Truth,
refusing to don the clothes of Falsehood, went naked.
Stating the not so obvious within the obvious
The moral in the above fable is this: Whatever it is, do
not mess with what belongs to someone else without their consent. Marriage between a man and a woman is the structural deciding
factor in all societies. All situations, without exception, can be properly decided by honoring who is married to who by upholding
the integrity of created purposes of general and personal responsibility in their decisions. We are usually blind to it by
our diversions; what we steal mostly from each other is our attentions to attend to our intentions.
Adding a mission to living, or the admission of faith-ful
commitment to marry, is taking on for oneself a deliberate responsibility to another. The joy of freedom to decide one’s
way before God and man demands a natural respect in ways where neighbors and the wider community can be safely assured of
protective stability. Also, the ongoing proclamation of married liberty to keep privacy private in a household provides admiration
in commerce to stabilize financial hopes in building a strong economy. A man and a woman each need to positively know what
it is they are working for.
On the other hand, the married bond is not a ‘ball
and chain’ of submission, a giving of the will unto another for their use without recourse, that requires a man or woman
to hold to resentful bondage against personal priorities hidden from the other. When others or events tempt people to go that
direction realignment is necessary to bring them on track together. As the patterns of married unity are designed to reflect
the patterns of faith in Christ unto God, a woman is not in submission unto a man just as the collective church of humanity
is not in submission unto Christ.
“And the law is not of faith, but he that hath done
them shall live in them. Nevertheless, Christ has redeemed us out of the curse of the law. Having become, in our behalf, a
curse; because it is written, “Cursed, is every one that hangs upon a tree.” In order that, unto the nations,
the blessing of Abraham might come about in Jesus Christ; in order that the promise of the Spirit we might receive through
means of the faith. Brethren! in human fashion am I speaking, yet still, a man's confirmed covenant no one sets aside or adds
unto.” (Galatians 3:12-15)
The church, or marriage household, is an intentional admission
of delightful acceptance of God’s Truth of Being, in appreciation for His gift of living awareness through shared personal
appreciation. The admission of married intent is in honor to the strengths of purposeful viability through faith. Because
of that, whether others do our thinking for us, or we do the thinking for ourselves, is the deceiving internal ever-present
question. It ignores everyone’s personal responsibility to respect why we have the choices we have to decide the pathway(s)
we enter into and travel.
Any actions, or inactions, we may take are affected by our
attentions in trust combined with desire. Everyone is interconnected-ly involved in ways where what happens is derived from
who is sharing their beliefs, concepts, and risk of faith with whom. When we put mood ahead of loyalty there is no structure
for loyalty to adhere. Conversely, when we put loyalty ahead of mood, mood spontaneously has a foundation of freedom in the
course of stability loyalty provides. Role playing others ways in attempts to relieve insecurities increases impulsive internal
prompts to see what others possess; as reason to take for our own use what belongs properly to them.
We worry about what others may think of us and therefore
forget who we are unto God in the things we allow. Living a marriage is a much more fulfilling undertaking than the give-and-take
of simply being married by contract. In order to get a hold of why we choose to do what we do it is necessary to see that
our motives must be less scattered and more focused toward those to whom we are responsible. And, those to whom we are responsible
are also those who are responsible to us. In this, anyone who believes Jesus Christ is not interested in working His salvation
through marriage and subsequently the family, in that order of authority under His Authority, is fooling themselves.
Freedom of self determined rights to experience against
free rights of determined personal responsibility is why many people are reluctant about marriage commitment. Any person’s
will of determination, his or her motivations of inspirational strength of character is at once separate and independent from
anyone and everyone else, and dependent in and upon anyone and everyone else. This is because anybody’s gift of personal
will is dependent upon respect for others’ gift to decide their own direction of faithing their expectations unto God’s
Marriage is the balance of maturity that brings the senses
of order to hapless alliances and is the unity which forms the necessary organizing disposition for any society to establish
sensible constraints against uncertainty. Without godly leading, of which marriage is created, there are hazy allegiances
to worldly wisdom founded in opinion and varying instinctual interests. What one or another holds as true for their personal
ways to interact with their surroundings, his or her personally convoluted positions of contradiction and defenses of personal
rights to choose, most often is based in general social rights without specific reasons that represent responsible attention
to the well being of self and others.
Because of self-centeredness, without attention to who each
of is in our naturally born duties of responsibility to created humankind, it is near impossible for any two intimately concerned
individuals to sort out each their own messes of misunderstanding to find what is termed “common ground”. True
togetherness of ‘us’ can only coexist in who a man and woman are in God’s attentions where faithful trust
is realizing that two agreed as one is a greater “entity” than each is alone. Holding onto what is ‘me’
by trying to mold another into compatibility denies that other their ‘me’ they are also trying to hold onto in
the same way.
Hiding one’s most cared about motivations, to keep
them from being manipulated, manipulates another to defend his or her own motivations by hiding from alteration the desires
others have to form attentions their way. In all intimate unions there is always one of the two who is more focused in their
‘me’ concept of existence than the other. Trying to figure out which it is, though, causes each to increase their
attentions into realizing a more complete ‘me’ and there is a battle to identify what a relationship means by
who it is that holds control over which persona rules decisions.
“We just can’t seem to get along!” is
not about whether either, or both, involved gets their way concerning what is more right and beneficial than the other - who
is accused as selfish if he or she appears not to comply with the will of the accuser. Most often the one accused as accusing
is not the accuser. When one takes responsibility to openly be honest to uncover the bowels of misunderstanding to find workable
solutions, as each day brings situations that create circumstances that need tending to, he or she is necessarily in the position
of confrontation with regard to any issue.
This is why a man is responsible to God through his promises
to his wife in marriage and a woman is responsible for her husband in the same way – with respect to who each is in
the order of God’s will. When the wedding vows are kept forefront in a couple’s attentions, through faith in Who
Christ is unto them, the higher purposes of togetherness intervene to lift any conflict of interest into His graces of covering.
“What do you have against me that you don’t have against yourself?” properly becomes an affectionate, “What
you have against yourself I also am suffering, for Christ’s sake!”
Accepting one’s personal responsibilities, (spiritually
intercessory acknowledgement of who each is for the other in Christ) for their partner is the priority to each their own personal
expectations. Personalizing and internalizing another’s expressed desires to risk trust enough to give up self-protective
attitudes, backfires when fear of discovery threatens to expose a secret agenda. Secret agendas usually are not about hoarding
internal righteousness to protect one’s sensibilities from corruption.
The blindness the word procrastination represents is not
addressing duties put off till another time as much as it signifies applying attentions to activities, or inactivates, aside
from responding to the duties of will based in commitment. When honor is ignored in lieu of resentful determination to force
appreciation because of real or imaginarily perceived disregarded concerns for one’s place of prominence in the heart
of romantic acceptance from another, there arise negative motivations to retaliate.
Furthermore, secret agendas that feign a front of ultra
sensitivity (to convincingly mimic actual natural ultra sensitivity to things right and true) are methods to use others to
cause those to believe their decisions came from their own ideas and/or are spontaneous ‘just-happened-that-way’
occurrences. Many times a man or woman left holding the bag of derision as an unbending culprit against better living is the
one who is most concerned with unraveling standoffish spiteful belligerence.
So, there is thought to be a battle between the sexes where
men use women while they run them down for joining them in their carousing (wandering attentions) and women do the same in
retort. As one leans necessarily on the other to help establish what they are together they usually enter into disputes about
what works and does not work to attain or retain personal securities, well being, and the joys of accomplishment that many
times is very different from the joys of discovery.
This erroneously directly leads to “conflicts of opinion”
that deny the common ground already established between a man and woman who love each other to do as they can to be who they
are together. Marriage vows give to both the man and the woman the cohesive foundation of equal footing to rely in God through
their promises connected to His that opens avenues of solution for better living that not being married cannot provide. Conceptual
reasons (reasons that work to reinforce self-focused impressions) are based in emotionally protective desires for personal
The decisive use of purposeful manipulative functions are
imaginary, as opposed to the matter-of-fact reasons that are based in the created purposes a man or woman knows any natural
functions hold, for what is that has been and is that will be. Decisions from perception about what was are different from
matter-of-fact decisions about what was because of what should be or should have been. Leading to new decisions about what
to believe to think to do is not an extension of the decisions about what was, unless conceptual reasons lead or overshadow
one’s created matter-of-fact reasons.
Matter-of-fact reasons (faith is based in Christ’s
finished past while hope is based in His finished future) for making decisions about conceptual reasons to decide a course
of action, help guide the purpose(s) a course of action takes. The other way round loses the stable foundation that supports
the strengths of validation a course of action requires to thrive and continue. It causes striving against negative nuances
present in the separating distance from the inherent purposes of the matter-of-fact reasons conceptual considerations have
to give appreciation for why an action may be viable.
As purposes lose their proper purpose to other purposes
the false guide negative nuances take through concept over reality causes considerations for matter-of-fact purposes to become
overblown and override right reasons by conceptualizing the matter-of-fact reasons into abstract perception. This overload
of natural sensibilities naturally causes pushing aside reality in matter-of-fact reasoning. Then, an attempt is made to make
the new ‘me’ of abstract manipulation a ‘me’ of factual persuasion over matter-of-fact realities where
fantasy reasoning distorts proper reasoning.
As applied to marriage, if one is not married and actively with
one who he or she is intimately familiar, the choices are to either get married, or disband and ‘start over with someone
else’ through repentance unto God in Christ for mishandling His most important of unions; or if one is married and astray
from their spouse, God’s expectation is for both to repent together unto Him in Christ to reunite in spirit and in truth
through the faith promise exercised during the wedding vows. A man’s position of accountability in intercession is in
fact what makes men, and not women, the party who is most often the 'problem' in relationship.
The ‘blame game’ finds no positive chain of
healthy sequence when the Created order of respect is forgotten (or unknown). No matter how beguiling and insistent a woman
may be, if a man is weak enough to fall for a woman’s charms to dishonor, disrespect, and causes a woman to betray her
God designed values to honor marriage in her heart by holding his own decency in check, a woman cannot be blamed for responding
to a man’s naturally God given authority to exercise his will to take as he wishes what he wishes to take. When a man
is confused about what being a man is, and a woman is confused about what being a woman is, it still is the responsibility
of a man to avoid the pitfalls pre or un married sexual union causes.
The ‘surf to find a suitable partner’ manner
people use to experience self invigorating pleasures, without commitment, in order to hopefully work into having a lasting
commitment (or not) play into fault finding by rating whether someone one is giving themselves to is worthy of the gift. This
causes a wandering eye of comparison where no one can ever measure up to the standards of perfection necessary to have the
best of the best a man or woman may feel is their right. This feeling of the right to have the best is both due to knowing
that God wants the best for us and our very existence says to us that we deserve to live as best we can.
But, we are not living as best we can when we are using
others to uphold our own personally derived standards of behavior we are reluctant to uncover for fear our cared for partner
will realize the scam we are perpetrating against their own desires “to have and to hold till death us do part”.
When positive situations and pleasant circumstances become the measured hurdle to jump in order to be accepted as one who
is marriageable, or one who is acceptable to remain married, there exists an onerous judging of the one one most loves in
ways where he or she cannot be accepted unless they perform to certain criteria.
While divorce is not the unforgivable sin, and remarriage
to another is blessed by God as representation of His grace and mercy to defend His own Word, the new marriage is, through
His forgiveness, mercy, and grace in Christ considered His witness of His way of righteousness through faith unto salvation.
There are most always loving committed reasons a man and woman originally get married and tolerance to respect the open honesty
needed to reunify a faltering marriage is found in faithfully appreciating, for God’s sake, all a husband or wife was,
is, and is to be.
But, after one is married to a second person it is most
against God’s desire for him or her to reunite with the first. Reunification with an original partner after one has
vowed the vows of matrimony with a second – considering that proper repentance finds its strength in the ceremony, places
a man or woman in the responsible position with God to faithfully honor the new marriage. Any past patterns of manipulation
by deception that bring the betrayals of trust a woman is apt to indulge when teasing men into having a good time become part
of the new husband’s responsibility to take before the throne of God for both their reconciliation and his own consolation.
To think to imagine that the past makes the present not
the past, so any engrained unsolved sinful matters are forgotten simply because there is a new person instead of the past
person, is a false faith in situational ethics where an ‘out-of-sight-out-of-mind’ philosophy steeps hatred for
the “way things were that need not be mentioned” into avoidance to discuss and be open with all a man or woman is with each other in their marriage where no hidden regrets and emotional piles of frustrations
and hardship seethe below the surface.
The “just forget about it” attitude that undermines
naturally created responsible growth is why many people hope to hide their self defeating ways by transferring their attentions
to someone who does not know their patterns of using a loved one to please themselves. If for some reason there arises a third
marriage; God is still God and Christ His Word is still His Word, and repentance is still repentance… But, there comes
a time where working of repentance to get one’s freedom of self-willed expression is understood as “playing the
system” and God is Himself bound to His own Word to not bless such activities when hurting distressed and committed
spouses (and others) are most likely left in the wake of this false using of His grace.
The reason a situation like this might occur is a person
is so disgusted with themselves for being so disgusted with others who led them to be disgusted with themselves that they
search the horizons to find “that one” who will relieve their disgust. Problem is, they usually load their new
prospect with the disgust they wish to rid themselves of; and then, they usually leave in a disgusted huff over having found
another who became their disgust for them to relieve their miseries. And most men are glad to do it by blaming the woman they
used as another “one of them”. Then, what choices does a man or woman assume they have afterward but to repeat
This vicious loop continues to continue because the process
makes the process when things are not properly cleared, and kept cleared, with God’s wisdom of endurance for one’s
loved ones instead of division against the wrongs they may or may not be responsible for doing. Either way, the wrongs one
does that a person is intimately involved with are the same as the wrongs of the one who believes they have been wronged –
because they, by God’s decree, are involved as one. It is a reversing into the negative of the natural intercessory
responsibility a man has for his wife.
Aside from social stability found in honoring a family name,
a woman’s maternal yearnings is why, throughout the centuries and in many cultures still today, only a man was or is
allowed to acquire a divorce. Desires to be loved and fulfilled are not a wrong or bad thing and the desperation (desperation
can manifest itself in many calloused forms where adversarial forces take advantage of one’s good intentions) that leads
one or another to go against their position of trust with their mate carries an empathy with a married partner because each
is of the other as the other is of the each. Shame and guilt increase the ‘strength of the barrier’ of separation
dark pressures use to solidify presumptions about delayed reconciliation.
Most people get too angry enough about personal troubles,
and transfer the loads of inconsistency onto their spouse in opposition, rather than realizing their thankfulness that their
spouse is glad to be the one to be responsible as one with them. Lovingly shared explanations about indiscretions with one’s
spouse, because a man’s body belongs to his wife as a woman’s body belongs to her husband, can never be perverted
into disgust with voyeuristic vicarious fantasy (as the secrecy of infidelity with an intruding personality causes a false
release of those very spiritual traumas through mockery of one’s spouse) when healing through faith in Christ’s
active guidance is kept forefront.
Because nobody is perfect except in Christ, the knowledge
of the good that offsets the knowledge of the evil of situations looks to find a physical focus to dump the overwhelming disgust
one has for things not right onto the man or woman one is married to - to attempt to overcome the evil. The very things people
often fight over are what, through faith active witness, they enjoy about each other in the purposes they originally were
married, again unto God Who still stands in His purposes they are married. And, most people are not unfamiliar with the fact
that the devil does what he can to get people to dishonor their promises to move onto another, who they can dishonor their
promises with… and so on.
by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should
boast. Ephesians 2:8-9
“Dear God our Father in heaven, have mercy on me
my (husband/wife) in all (he/she) is concerning every aspect of (his/her) being, no matter what; for the sake of our together
name unto You for your Name’s sake. Have mercy on (him/her) concerning myself for the sake of Your glory.
Lead and guide us, heal us, and touch our hearts, minds, and efforts to be the witness we married to be unto
each other and thereby unto others.
Cleanse us and shield us from the dark misunderstandings that corrupt Your Word of Truth and bring us into the
shared togetherness married privacy enjoys according to our matrimonial vows.
Protect our faith in our expectations for each other based in Your promises to defend our togetherness against
anyone who may be jealous, ill-mannered, or determined to cause difficulties that seem to be insurmountable.
You for Your loving-kindness and longsuffering in our behalf, I pray through faith in the authority of Jesus Christ our Savior,
No time to waste
Habakkuk chapter 2
The spirit of humility through decision making,
according to the tiered authorities within a family with regard to marriage and its cohesive strengths in faith unto God in
Christ, has all but given place to social pride and collective informal formalism. True love, as found in working out differences
through faith in God’s established ways, has grown cold by the self-serving working of pragmatism to build the bondage
of financial security as an expression of the fruits of religious dedication.
Love for Christ, as He is present in and through
honoring the positions of traditional family respect for togetherness, has been transferred to looking ahead to a day of His
return as a fantasy that belies the present moment. Absorbed in worldliness in God’s Name through pleasure seeking without
responsible duty to commitments, the professed people of God are blinded to the Savior’s instructions concerning the
signs of His appearing where the signs are ever-present and alive as people properly interact in faith in His Word.
The doctrines of the second coming of Christ
are neglected by misinterpretation until we as a people have fictionalized a separation between ongoing living and the hope
for His ultimate and final return. Ignored and forgotten is the fact that all things are finished in His Victory as we are
yet to be transformed into His eternal fullness. Meanwhile, militant defenders of emotional self-righteousness equate the
situational ethics of right-over-wrong worldly wisdom with godly justice. For many, there is a subconscious assumption, a belief
that life itself is a dream to be one day awakened from.
They usually work to solidify their perceptions
of proper behavioral containment by citing, for example, possible mortal health risks; or by picking out and condemning as
‘hell bound’ those who do not fit their own hopes to find stability around them. Often, reasons for disunion of
fellowship are founded in overzealous out-of-context Bible quotes such as, “He who wins souls is wise.” It can
be understood that there is not separation of church and state with appreciating the founded authority of the church is in
private households. For illustration, "Thou shalt not steal." could be easily emblazoned on the side of a police cruiser.
Thus, there comes a policing of those who are
most near and/or in positions to affect personal environment to justify attempts to find God’s strength of endurance…
by believing that faith means expecting that others will behave one’s behavioral demands. It defeats the very witness
of example provided by God’s Gospel of invitation to life in Christ while it reinforces the same intrusive temptations
resentment forces through law over personal will. It has been asked, “Are we wise because we win souls or do we win
souls because we are wise.”
In fact, the answer is, “Neither.”
because when we forget our wisdom comes through faithful trust in God, we erringly believe our gift of wisdom is of our own
doing – which our natural intuition, mistaken as spiritual discernment, opens rights to intrude into the condition(s)
of others’ heart(s). Additionally, this is precisely where many people find working measures of guilt manipulation will
bring conviction unto salvation for God’s sake – or at the least provide a controlled satisfaction with security.
While expecting that their own egotistical
nuances of prideful false posturing gives the boldness of supposed ownership over households, and marriages not their own,
widely available advanced communications have caused surveillance and stalking to result in the same overall effects of loss
of liberty, integrity, and the foundational strongholds of honored privacies. Profiling and background checks have supplanted
honorable expectations and trust in both the workplace and personal relations.
Consequently, we increasingly are living in
a world that is turning in upon itself in the name of progress; place by place via ‘professional suspicion’ upholding
the organization as viable over personal responsibilities. What one or another wants to well protect from harm is thought
to be a concealment from justified public scrutiny and there arises a general ‘dumbing down’ of community vitality
where fears of loss become identified with emotionally loaded ideas such as, “You will show and tell me what I want
to know or it means you are hiding something.” This can be seen manifested by reading the group therapy confessionals
called the ‘comments’ section below online news articles.
Much effort is spent by many in identifying
with others and things in trying to be somebody when they are already somebody singularly and/or with their mate. So it is
in courtship where those who are looking for identity fail to see where they are sharing a real and natural identity. They
are giving up who each the other is in accepting the other’s facade. Two facades combined create a worldly masterpiece
of contradictions that simply thrive on negative energy compensated for by ambition and mutual goal attainment. Above all,
everybody is concerned with three things: we are hungry, need shelter, and trusting companionship.
The errors a man and woman are created to properly
cover (overcome) for each other under the able shielding hand of God’s benevolence, through their privately shared
as-one transparency of trust, is lost to the value of public commerce via social intrigue... the worth of their union as considered
by judging monetary viability. Right before our eyes and consideration are the examples of the breadth of God’s blessed
bounty as He demonstrates His creativity through the hands of humankind misread as self applied intellect and ingenuity.
Using fear to reduce risk increases the risk;
that is where the pleasing/policing ostrich mentality of socialism falls short to the hardship and eventual demise of freedom-structured
family securities: Professional policy, procedure, and protocol put psychological pressure to propagate pseudo-pragmatic pessimistic
patterns of pretending process proficiency. The freedoms and comforts enjoyed by all classes of society, the ambitious desires for wealth and luxury, begetting
an absorbing devotion to money-making, the eager rush for popularity and power, which seem to be within the reach for all,
lead men and women to center their interests and hopes on the things of living instead of the reasons for living – putting
in the future a day when the present order of things should be fulfilled.
When Christ pointed out to His followers the
signs of His return, He foretold the state of apostasy that would exist just prior to His actual return at the end of ages.
A state of misinformed misalignment to respect for appreciation for the natural ways God designed for men and women to share
has pervaded our understanding - as in the days of Noah before the Great Flood the activities of the right things for the
wrong reasons, the stir of worldly business, pleasure seeking, buying/selling, planting, building, marrying and giving in
marriage… all with forgetfulness of God and His life of purposes in and through those things.
Marriages have never witnessed such general
declension of loyalty to shared faithful decisiveness as at the present. Truly, respect for the vows of marriage between a
man and woman, as the foundation of Christ’s Church in the world, should be awakened and search made into the causes
of these afflictions; for as an affliction we all as citizens of our respective communities, states, and countries, should
view it. When we call to mind how ‘few and far between’ cases of true togetherness and unity of family are, and
the almost unparalleled impertinence and hardness of self-serving attitudes, we almost involuntarily exclaim, “Has God
forgotten to be gracious?” Or, “Is the door of mercy closed?”
For those living then and now Christ’s
admonition is: “Take heed to yourselves, lest at any time your hearts be overcharged with surfeiting, and drunkenness,
and the cares of this life, and so that day come upon you unawares.” “Watch ye therefore, and pray always, that
ye may be accounted worthy to escape all those things that shall come to pass, and to stand before the Son of Man. Luke
may not be all that spiritual, but God is and that’s good enough for us.”
~ Jason Malone
In a world where the usual is called normal,
this shared message of witness will seem most bizarre to many who, especially, look in what they encounter for rationale of
what they already hold as unreliably proper. The primary reason that widespread assumption exists is traditionally found in
thinking Christ Himself is the equalizing counterpoint, the force of good vs. satan’s force of evil. What it causes
is the ‘accidental’ acceptance of light against darkness philosophies where the Light of Truth of God somehow
seems to need darkness to shine forth.
Throughout getmarriedfirst.com; getmarriedfirst/international,
arrowlamp / waysong - victory mountain, divine physics, spiritual mechanics - nature’s mental health, US Patriot pages,
enduring hope, and changes effect the message is not a new way of living separately from God’s consistent Way all peoples
of the ages have encountered. There is nothing new here, though perhaps ignored, forgotten, or lost to general understanding.
We do not have, and do not claim to have, a new prophecy, message, or religious deviance or cultish
undercurrent of ‘rejection in the name of acceptance’ of God’s righteous purity through His truth in Christ.
Everything shared is Biblically based, everything shared is nothing new but is given in the emphasis from and unto God in
Christ from our corner of the universe with regard to our particular mission for His sake. Most of what is written on these
sites' pages is our witness of what we hear and see in the news compared with what it says in the Bible.
Applying our responses to requests for us to do this work, to share what we have with those who
will respond in their own lives, we hope to achieve God’s purposes and not our own through this witness. As talents
and abilities are distinct and different to fulfill the purposes of Creation’s designs there, of course, are many overlapping
efforts of prophecy, evangelism, teaching, and pastoral leadership.
One and the same for all, though, is an acknowledged respect for general and specific standards
regarding marriage and being married as it is realized by all. This does not, however, include intrusion into the personal
private bond of will of choice between a married man and woman, for their duty of responsibility to authority is in first
and always God’s hands. Directly, if somebody has been and/or is using you as a crash dummy these sites
are not only for you, they are also for them. In that, our work here is also a road to healing for anybody who has,
or believes they have, a sullied or just plain nasty bad reputation.
People, in the pride of personal achievement over hidden fears, do many forbidden things in the
name of freedom. What they fail to see is that self-esteem through self-validating activities actually enslave those who become
involved. When liberty becomes license, liberty is not only misconstrued – those who misconstrue are themselves shackled
so they lose the liberty of which Scriptures speak. True freedom comes not in the freedom to sin, but from the freedom not
Those who live unto self and the world’s social constructs can be ‘changed’,
like anyone else, only by the Spirit of God in Christ. This is why, as in all ages, a deep spiritual awakening is sorely needed
today. People and governments cannot legislate successfully against the problems that face nations, communities, and families.
No matter how many laws are passed, or how many good intentions there may be, in those persons outside of Christ their instinctual
self-preserving nature is in control.
It may be subdued at times through human education, techniques, and containment; it may be controlled
by sheer active discipline at other times, but there will come times when these works of the flesh, the intentions of gaining
and retaining attentions the wrong ways for the wrong reasons, will manifest themselves by boiling over in strife and eventually
war. In reality, as opposed to following a self-perpetuating dream, one’s thinking is subject to his or her faith rather
than faith being subject to one’s thinking.
A faithing Christian is a new creation through Christ’s resurrection subject to His will.
Not a product of social expectations. He or she can allow positive helpful control of the Holy Spirit with respect to the
priorities of living in agreement with a committed partner; and produce the fruit of the Spirit which is a whole new set of
principles (as old as creation itself) that develop a new family in their order of shared existence of awareness – and
could consequently produce a ‘new society’.
Romans chapter 12