Dreams may be romantic, but romance is not a dream
II Corinthians 5:7-21
“Dearest,” said the wife, “Let’s stop arguing and compromise. I’ll admit I’m
wrong if you say I’m right.”
“Okay, Sweetheart,” said the husband, “But, I don’t believe in compromise. And since
I’m a gentleman, you go first.”
Then the wife said, “Ok… I admit it. I’m wrong.”
To which the husband replied, “You are absolutely right!”
Then the wife responded with, “But, you just said I’m wrong!”
“No, Darling, suggested the husband, “You, said you’re wrong. I said you are right.”
The wife replied, “Well then, that makes us both right!”
To that, the husband said, “Yes! If only we had realized that before.”
The wife then said, “Before what?”
“Before the vase was broken,” the husband said.
The wife replied, “It’s really only a vase, and better to have lost such a wonderful vase than to
have had nothing to lose.”
“I have you. Vases can come and go, but there is only one you,” the husband replied.
“Then, we were both wrong…” the wife said.
“Yes,” the husband agreed. “We both care to be right and are sometimes wrong in how to go
about it. That is why we need our Father in heaven to guide our steps.”
“Thank you! You are so wonderful!” the wife responded.
To that, the husband said, “And you’re the most beautiful woman that ever walked the face of this
Then the wife said, “When you’ve said that before, I really never understood what you meant …”
“I appreciate your modesty,” the husband said.
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For it is written, “As I am living, saith the Lord,
unto Me every knee shall bow. And, every tongue shall openly confess unto God. Hence, then, each one of us shall give account
of himself unto God. No longer then let us be sitting in judgment one upon another. But, this judge ye rather - not to be
putting a cause of stumbling before your brother or an occasion to fall. I know and am persuaded in the Lord Jesus that nothing
is profane, of itself unclean; save to him who reckons anything to be profane, unto that man, it is unclean.” (Romans 14:11-14)
Everyone lives in a dual ‘nature’
where we have a permanent spiritual body that resides in a flesh body. Originally, people were created by God to live wholly
in their spiritual body. But, because of the fall of mankind to demonized influence by an attack from the adversary, God’s
divine will of choice to have things properly His way was stolen.
Stolen was the naturally created difference of
priority of respect a man has with his wife where they are married to each other in flesh companionship by legal declaration;
and are married with, or of, each other in spiritual companionship by faithful assurance. To reestablish life over death, our heavenly Father saw fit to place our spirit
bodies in flesh bodies to relegate rebellion to an earthly arena where opposition to life and living can follow a plan of
reconciliation to Him and His perfect Truth of genuine honest wholeness.
So, as people’s spirit bodies are interned in flesh
bodies for the purposes of accepting redemption, while satan and his fallen cohorts are finding their just judgment as a consequence,
a man’s makeup of being consists of two parts spirit body and one part flesh body. Likewise, a woman’s makeup
of being consists of one part spirit body and two parts flesh body. The three overall aspects of soul/flesh existence are: Awareness, Will, and Instinct – both men and women
have their awareness drawn from the spirit body.
Man has his will drawn from his spirit body while a woman has her will drawn from her flesh body;
and both draw their instinct from their flesh bodies. This is true proper alignment, but as we understand confusion and upside-down-backwards worldly wisdom, the
alignments of Awareness, Will, and Instinct are mixed up and motivating people against their created positions, alliances,
and responsibilities with regard to each other, others, God, angels (messengers), and angels fallen like-kind (perverted lying
self-willed self-serving messengers).
The Bible says that all things are in, of, and by the Word
of God. God spoke and out of nothing came into being all that is. There is a Tree of Life, Jesus Christ, Who produces the
fruits of God’s desire for Creation. Adam and Eve, married by God, lived in harmony, trust, and respect with God in
the Garden of Eden. The fall of humanity to adversity against God’s design and desire in the Truth of His Word came
through an intrusion of a gossiping anti-word of jealous envy expressed in Satan’s lying words to Eve: “Yea, hath
God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?”
Here, Satan spoke to Eve addressing the same matters of
life and death that God had addressed with Adam and Eve through a conversational word. God’s intent of heart is directly
transparent in the speaking of His Word. But, the adversary’s intent in his pandering to people’s instinctual
emotions is hidden. Since a word of knowledge contains the intent of the heart, Eve was deceived by her trust that Satan was
speaking from a legitimate position of authority.
What may on the surface seem to be an honest witness of
God’s own Word to Adam and Eve is Satan’s exploitation of the respect in Authority God had with Adam and Eve,
and the respect of authority Adam had with Eve to God. Challenging her to challenge God’s Authority through disrespecting
their obedience to God through Adam, Satan prompted Eve to respond to him through her own sense of indignation with: “We
may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden: But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath
said, ‘Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.’”
In this, Eve gave up her respect to Adam’s authority
through her initial attempt to counteract Satan’s disrespect to God. Through Satan’s appeal to her curiosity,
he thus undermined Eve’s dependence to rely in Adam, for God’s sake, by tempting her pride of personal protectionism
in defending herself (which was actually of Adam in God). Satan then took authority directly from Eve’s independently
expressed will by responding with the direct lie: “Ye shall not surely die: For God doth know that in the day ye eat
thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.”
Satan’s ulterior motives through gossip, the stolen
attentions of the Word of living, was to use a host of compliance between Creation and his desire to have things his perverted
way. People no longer had direct communication with their Creator, so God established a Temple where a faithful high priest
would stand in for them unto and to God. Thus, the arranging and sacrificial compensation for people’s fallen-ness was
provided via God’s particular presence of Authority transferred to the people through the priests.
The “limited” availability of God’s will
through the Temple necessarily required leadership by the priests in the stead of God’s leadership in direct communication
with a man and his wife together. But, in their controlling pride of self-protective dishonesty, God’s presence at the
Temple was used as a backdrop for many people’s indignation against others’ failures, to serve the mind's eye.
Resulting in a haughty “me first” typing of others, especially ones we are most accountable to and most accountable
to us, into compartmentalized perceptions of twisted logic about who is accurate, and who is inaccurate.
In this, faithlessly rejected is the Word of Living Gospel
unto Salvation God supplies, by rejecting people who do not suit the status quo. However, Jesus Christ’s ministry on
earth, and His fulfillment of Victory over humankind’s Fall into the knowledge of good and evil, re-established peoples’
abilities to properly and directly communicate with God the Father. Victory is achieved by and through communications with
marriage partner, and with respect to the couple’s authority in Christ over their children to guide them into Christ’s
leading in their own lives.
This is why the veil to the Holy of Holies in the Temple
was torn in two. In Christ’s Authority there is no longer a need for people to find God’s presence at the Temple
(the denominational church organization), through pastoral leadership; to realize the life He has for them to live. Leadership
is reinstituted by marriage, in Christ, the way God created it to be. The central message for all living from God, as witnessed
to in the Bible, is He does not desire to be taken for granted; “Seek and ye shall find, ask and ye shall be given…”
As people created in His image (‘image’ being
the representation of His Truth of being in Christ the Word), we are to be respectfully asked to do what we can do in honor
of our very living existence unto God. Taking people for granted who are in responsibility to us in marriage, family, and
wider social situations, as if they are somehow obligated by existence to comply with automatic self-directed service to others,
rejects the same principles of integrity Satan used to violate Eve’s respect in rejecting Adam’s authority from
God, and thereby Adam’s respect for God.
The Word of Truth of Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit, is the
tree of life and living as all things of our Father in heaven are of His righteousness in creation. The false word of obstinacy,
the seed of gossip and self-importance, is the tree of the knowledge of good and evil; the antipathy of wholeness that is
the militaristic communal integration of fallen entities possessed wholly within the bonds of satan. The first man Adam’s
subjugation to the seeds of false Gospel was ‘formed’ by the adversary’s clever assignation with Eve.
Lucifer left his place of God given authority to guard Christ’s
mercy seat by transferring his gifts of prominence to the realm of human beings where those same gifts of praise and honest
adoration are functionally inappropriate in their application to human endeavors. The ‘right thing in the wrong place’
became the ways and means of people in their attempts to socialize their senses of importance in the face of mortality. Thus,
peoples’ survival/continuation is caught in the unbalanced need for livelihood, self protection in the distance away
from God’s full and open natural protection, as opposed to giving up life itself so that further generations may have
In order to wisely reestablish His righteousness through
Adam with Eve over satan’s stealth and debauchery, God provided an avenue of respective authority in His promise to
satan, “I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and
thou shalt bruise his heel.” Genesis 3:15. This divine sentence pronounced against satan after the fall of humankind
through Eve/Adam was also a prophecy, embracing all mortal times to the close of time; signaling the great conflict through
all conflicts to indwell all the races of men who should live upon the earth.
“I will put enmity…” God declares. This
enmity is not created to naturally be entertained. When man transgressed the divine law, his nature became evil, and he was
in a ‘love/hate’ catch-22 harmony, and not mindfully in opposition, with satan (“What will ‘they’
think, say, or do about me if I do, say, or think this or that?”). Through his instinctual will of intellect, there
exists no enmity between sinful humankind and the originator of sin. Both became evil through apostasy – as satan’s
method of rebellion against God became his likeness, so became man in his ambitious approach to gain an advantage.
The renegade unredeemed to God in Christ person, both religious
and non-religious, is never at rest, except as he or she obtains sympathy and support by inducing others to follow their example.
For this reason fallen angels and wicked people unite in desperate companionship; deceptively intentional by demonic entities
and unwittingly deceived by worldly entangled people. Had not God expressly punctuated His will, satan and man would have
entered into an uncloaked defiantly direct alliance against heaven.
Instead of treasuring enmity against evil, the entire human
family would have been united in opposition to God. But, people are born with an inherent yearning to seek God through the
natural measure of the gift of faith for living He plentifully supplies. Satan tempted and tempts men and women to sin, as
he had caused angels to rebel, that he might thus secure a league in his warfare against heaven. There was no dissent between
hisself and the fallen angels who were absorbed into his influence like sugar is dissolved into water.
Dark angels, demonic entities, operate the courses of cohesive
chaos ‘in one accord’ as a reverse of God’s Kingdom unity, together, as regards their hatred of Christ.
They wish to be most like Him without being of Him to usurp His place; while on all other points there is necessarily unlawful
discord, they are firmly united in opposing the authority of the Ruler of the universe. However, they are intrinsically bound
to satan their supreme leader who heard and hears the declaration that enmity should exist between himself and the woman,
and between his seed and her seed.
He knew and explicitly knows that his efforts to deprave
human character are ultimately interrupted; that by some means man, for the sake of his woman for God’s sake, is enabled
to resist his power. Satan’s enmity against the human race is kindled because, through Christ, they are the objects
of God’s love and mercy. He desires to thwart the divine plan for man’s redemption, to cast dishonor upon God,
by defacing His handiwork; he would cause grief in heaven and fill the earth with woe and desolation. And he points to all
this evil as the result of God’s work in creating mankind.
But, satan’s fury was (or, is) put to an end before
Adam and Eve were ousted from the Garden of Eden. As God is the Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end, all time is enfolded
into His hands. That means, in the realm of eternal thoroughness, all events of the eons of mortal earthly time are happening
at once like a series of all-encompassing interactive fluctuating layers of faith-active attentions. Furthermore, the covering
God covered them with, “Unto Adam also and to his wife did the LORD God make coats of skins, and clothed them.”
Genesis 3:21, was in actuality the sacrificial Body of Christ God’s Word of Truth of the finished work of Christ, Himself.
As Jesus Christ is God’s living Word of covering of
graceful mercy over the very sedition satan deceptively thrust upon His created peoples, the purposeful intent of the Gospel’s
function, in and of the witnessing example of marriage between a man and a woman can be realized. And so it is written, “The
first man Adam was made a living soul; the last Adam was made a quickening spirit.” I Corinthians 15:45 It is the expectant
grace that Christ implants in the soul which creates in man enmity against satan and his wiles. Without this converting grace
and renewing power, people would continue in the captivity of satan - servants ever ready to do his bidding without realizing
it is his bidding.
The new confidence in the soul found through authority over
instinctual disrespect for who anybody is in Christ creates conflict with worldly knowing where hitherto had been peace with
attempts at self-realization. The power that Christ imparts through properly shared trust in Him enables a man with a woman
to together resist the tyrant and usurper of households and neighborhoods. Whoever is seen to abhor the sins of indulging
gossip and meddling into other’s affairs, instead of loving it; whoever resists and conquers those indignant self-righteous
religious passions that attempt to hold sway within and without, displays the operation of a standard wholly from Above.
The antagonism that exists between the spirit of Christ
and the spirit of satan is most strikingly displayed not in the world’s reception of religion or the church, but of
Jesus Christ in the moment at anytime, anywhere people properly honor their familial commitments. His humble example to the
masses for true prosperity in living is not so much because He appeared without worldly wealth, pomp, or grandeur that the
Jews were led to reject Him. They saw that He possessed power, which would more than compensate for the lack of these outward
The purity and holiness of Christ called forth against Him
the hatred of the ungodly, not because He threatened their wealth, but because He threatened the reasons behind their purposes
for obtaining and holding their wealth. His life of self-denial and sinless devotion was a perpetual reproof to a proud, sensual
people. And, again, it wasn’t that their pride and sensuality was sinful… because naturally created appreciation
for life awareness (honorable pride) and hearty pleasurable satisfaction (festive joyful intimate togetherness) are created
by God in Christ for men and women to properly partake.
It is the using of others for one’s own advantage,
at the expense of those other’s, with disregard for the dignities and respect the bonds of vows produce through honest
faithful trust. The evoked enmity against the Son of God is through misappropriation of attentions with and to anyone who
does not have an acknowledged authorized agreement with those whom they are responsible to be sharing an agreement. It has
nothing to do with social standards, community expectations, local or national laws, or any self-defensive excuses one or
another may have to deny their promised partner their due course of knowledgeable intercession with God through Christ.
No matter how small or large a situation, it is the forthright
and honest ‘spirit’ of the matter that matters when attitudes, considerations, and expectations find difficulties
with concealing intentions, and/or desires and/or activities. Satan and evil angels join with evil men and women, making them
evil, not in producing traditional sinful acts of behavior, those things are simply symptoms of misapplied decision making.
And, again, it is not whether the decisions themselves are right or wrong as the world thinks of decisions to do or not do
what one does, it is why a decision is made and with who.
All the energies of apostasy, the twisted and disoriented
Gospel message of ongoing salvation, conspire against the Champion of Truth. The same enmity that is manifested toward Christ’s
followers, the church in a man or woman’s heart, as was manifested toward their Master when He walked the earth before
His crucifixion. Whoever sees the repulsive character of inordinate affection, and in strength from above resists temptation,
will assuredly arouse the wrath of satan and his subjects.
Hatred of the pure ethics of truth in Christ through faith
in promises, and reproach and persecution of advocates for proper family structures as designed by God, casting aside devotion’s
for a whim of fancy as if cheating is just retaliation for ‘having been wronged’, will exist as long as sin and
sinners remain – as long as this earth keeps turning in the present age of mortality. The followers of Christ and the
servants of satan cannot harmonize, but the power of redemptive representation is the one beneficial blessedness God provides
to those who respond to His call to live the life He gives abundantly in appreciation for His having provided that life.
At all times, as long as anyone draws a breath of air, there
is always an avenue of reconciliation with a loved one who one is promised to. The secure and resolute benefit of longsuffering
for Christ’s sake for one’s mate is the witness of His presence in the natural world that, no matter what, there
is someone who upholds marriage in the power of faith in Christ no other reality can touch. To those who follow popular media
ministries founded in extorting God’s promises for personal prosperity, God knows who those ‘Reverend’s’
are and He knows who you are. (Matthew 23:16-17) One must always remember that satan loves to play God, so if the prosperity
principles are misapplied… to whom goes the glory?
2 Timothy chapter 3
As a day goes:
In the order of creation, all any man has is his word. Anything
else that is of a man is manifested by means of God’s grace for natural living subject to a man’s word. When a
wedding brings a woman into contract as one with a man, her word unites with his in God’s Word of life giving power
of faith-action. Under their shared name, a man establishes his word by promise to his wife and she becomes him, his word,
as he becomes her, her word – their shared inspiration. Together, they constitute the central focus of reason material
existence is being brought to life day by day, by God for His glory.
Hebrews 11:3 says, “Through faith we understand that
the worlds were framed by the Word of God, so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear.” When
a person is bent upon putting themselves first in order to make his or her contribution to others and society, there is a
using of anyone who happens to be convenient to personal causes and concerns. The result brings casting out people who are
not “useful” and including people who provide a form of function by compartmentalizing levels of thought-to-be
beneficial suppliers to support materialistic ideologies.
It produces a collector’s zeal formed by experiential
positive sensations used in efforts to fill the emptiness from denying ‘undesirables’ due respect in Christ. This
false faith inversion of God’s leading, as a religion, takes on a personalized deification of products, events, and
time to serve emotional/intellectual desires, at the expense of denying God’s plans and purposes in His fashioned structures
for honoring marriage, business, family, and society. When a man is being robbed, his wife is being robbed the same; along
with everyone and anyone else who are involved with and in their lives.
Living through a day is a procedure, a practice, of responding
to a word of purpose in actualizing who we are in accord with our loyalties. Prayer, combined with our efforts, is the answer
to all things. Prayer is the humbling of the whole of oneself before God where we give to Him our resentment He changes to
confidence. Whether people remember to respectfully cooperate is another thing since we all have complaints. When we feel
our prayers are not answered or are ignored - rest assured God knows and considers.
His priority is our eternal place in Him and our earthly
cares and concerns are on His 'back burner' of sorts. One of the devil’s names is ‘Misery’ and misery ‘loves’
company in stealing away time, success, and thereby companionship. Our habitual complaining is about conditions of mortal
living. Many people go to bed at night complaining and get up in the morning complaining to fight their way into using others
to get what they feel they must have. It is like a crying baby holding his or her care taking parents responsible to do what
they are already doing as best they can.
Many people are scattered
in their attentions because they do not have a proper and stable focus. The times when we think or wonder why He doesn't protect
our interests, it is because He respects everyone's will to do as they wish in this life. Confusion about our desires rests
in trying to find a trust in others to validate our whims when others are doing the same. Innocence is not something of our
wholeness we lose through education and experience. Innocence is obtained as a gift, through faith, from God.
Clearly, thoughts and emotions (our changing moods) can
exist whether we are living in God's will or not. So, when we choose at any given time to be obedient to what our conscience
tells us is right, no matter how we or others feel, in the long run we and they will think and feel in a more appropriate
way. This life is not a self improvement journey. It is about respect for God’s holiness through His plan for redemption.
Our togetherness is a sharing of God’s will of design instead of a building of ourselves according to the will of our
personal intent and pride.
Happiness is not the goal of life as most people assume.
Gladness is the joy of realization God brings to us through our trust of faith in Him to follow His ways and patterns of life
for His sake. What is shared by two people, heard by a third person, will mean something completely different. At all times,
everything is dependent in, from whom we want to listen. Marriage is working and building, sharing and creating, of a life
together in faith.
Well meaning sensibility about shared living is not waiting
to be married until everything is “just right” or holding off a wedding until a man and woman are sure in their
securities about each other. Meddling by others in a man and woman’s personal affairs is precisely where liars and thieves
take advantage of our magnanimous choices to extend grace and appreciation by manipulating circumstances in purposely forcing
acceptance of wrongs to control behavior to their advantage.
Overprotective habits of older parents with their adult
children are honed to an art of matter-of-fact repression and oppression concerning their son’s and daughter’s
living arrangements because of their parent’s fears of stepping heavenward. Especially among the elderly, attempts to
‘own’ the dynamics of married privacy between a man and his wife are designed to overcome holding onto independent
and shared self-willed mortal living.
Through vicarious demands centered in need by working emotional
obligations against loyalty, these people utilize and many times cause; derision, conflict, and infighting between spouses.
Some will employ any real or imagined means with ‘blood is thicker than water’ excuses that undermine life and
living exactly where Christ and His redemptive Gospel speaks to His wholeness in respect for liberty through faith in thankful
expectations for young, and not so young, marriages.
Nice does not make right. Only God makes right. Our Creator
reveals to us our purpose for being as we live our lives but we lose His way continually trying to find our own. Many times
in our search for Him, we are searching for ourselves through His principles with the belief that His principles will lead
us to Him. There is a common misconception that being a Christian is to be nice and compliant – considerate, yes, but
true Christians are necessarily tough and rugged people, averse to gossip mongering.
Personal matters are not intended to sate public hunger for
sensationalism. The grace of security and protection in privacy God provides for us as a people is in the sanctity
of the marriage bond – it certainly helps relieve peer pressure temptations. Any acquaintance who speaks and acts contrary
to respect for conscientious family loyalty is no friend. The only situations in life we may properly be completely open about
personal matters is a man to his wife, a woman to her husband, and minor children to their parents.
This is where love is usually misrepresented by tradition,
folklore, and religious socialism. All too often love is thought of as a state of being in associated attachments –
an emotional owning of self-validation from others and things. Love, though, is doing. Not a doing of empowerment that makes
something one’s own that another has, but a doing that arises from acts of will. That is why our personal will(s), aligned
with Christ’s will open the doors of God’s creative loving works.
As it is His will of love to lead and guide our hearts of
plenty, it is our direction of will in agreement with a spouse that gives a steady direction of protections. Much human expressions
of emotional intensities called love – in reactions to sensational stimulations – is actually selfish in nature
while true committed love exemplifies God inner love in our volition of being. Worldly love wishes to make itself richer by
receiving gifts that some other can give. True godly intimate love wishes to make another richer by giving all that it has.
Thus, desire to acquire interpersonal knowledge of private
family matters is not in the influential field of relatives, friends, or acquaintances since those circumstances involve a
diversion (and thereby a division) from reaching out to our Source of life in faith. Sound decision making comes from honoring
our God given structures with respect to our position(s) in the family. A “too close to see” simplicity is found
in people’s intentions in their directions of attention. Absentmindedly, parents (households), communities, and governments
use people in their enthusiastic generosity as the ball in the battles of fielding their games; scrambling for advantage.
Still, the artificial
advantage becomes loss. When a man or woman is self attentive in their pursuits he or she looks to obtain interrelations that
will ensure attention is received. This using of others to feed one’s craving desires for selfish attention causes the
others to lose who they are into giving attention to one who is giving themselves attention through their attentions. Because
a ‘one way street’ like this cannot sustain itself, the attention seeker looks for anyone or everyone who will
provide reinforcement for one’s own self attention giving.
When a man’s main concern is in giving attention to
his woman and a woman’s main concern is in giving attention to her man, both receive and give the proper attentions
necessary to maintain togetherness and thrive in their undertakings. Therein lays the foundation of long term prosperity –
the real strength of any society’s communities, commerce of business, and the various departments of government of service
to the people without unwarranted overstepping across personal and private family boundaries – and neighbors are less
suspicious of their neighbors…
Everybody has needs and everybody has something to offer
of God’s gift of life service to others. Nobody can be everything to everybody – only Jesus Christ holds that
office. God is a ‘first things first’ Creator who asks us to put Him first. Since His Word was in the beginning,
is now, and will be after the end, our word honors Him by putting always first that accepted one with whom we are married.
If all any of us has in time, energy, health, resources or abilities and talent enough for just one person, then God is pleased
with our work in life for His sake in tending to our marriage.
The vital difference between Social Individualism and Godly
Reality is that productivity to avoid fear of retribution in worldly wisdom is productivity for thankful appreciation that
one has a life worth defending. Extended trust brings God’s assistance for His glory, to share with one’s mate,
children, extended family, neighbors, and so on with respect to who each person is according to their commitments of promise.
God’s power over adversity and His bounty of blessings
in our lives are His promises to us in Christ. When a man and woman carry their joint faith together as priority, their children
have God’s natural active witness of the Gospel of the way of salvation in Christ. It is true the time honored saying,
“The family that prays together, stays together.” Some, or a lot, will take issue with this until they understand
what it means: "Marriage means to be frank enough not to feel a need to apologize."
Bear in mind, the above statement applies only to those married.
As we understand our heartfelt compassion for anybody we know needs assistance, reaching out to others is always subject
to whether a couple has the capacity to do what they can to help. Ideally, if each man and woman lived by God’s ‘first
things first’ order of respect in Him, the entire world would be specifically and personally naturally supplied.
The paradox of appreciation: All trees generally behave as trees. But, each of the variety of trees behaves
differently from the next.
Rejoice and exult, because your reward is great in the heavens; for so persecuted they the prophets who were
Ye are the salt of the earth; but if the salt become tasteless, wherewith shall it be salted? It is good for
nothing any more, save being cast out to be trampled on by men.
Ye are the light of the world: it is impossible for a city to be hid, on the top of a mountain, lying.
Neither light they a lamp and place it under the measure; but upon the lampstand, and it gives light to all
that are in the house.
In like manner let your light shine before men; that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who
is in the heavens.
Do not think that I came to pull down the law or the prophets; I came not to pull down, but to fulfill.
For verily I say unto you, until the heaven and the earth shall pass away, one least letter, or one point, may
in nowise pass away from the law; till all be accomplished.
Frustrated? Depressed? Confused?
Consider, for your betterment for God’s sake, that emotionalism is not spirituality:
Reducing confusion about conflicting emotions and mixed
up thoughts starts with, and continues with, intentionally putting effort into realizing, as one encounters the moments of
a day, that the why of matters matters more than the what of matters while the who of matters is the reason for the why. When
what is kept first, the who involved that makes up the various differences with the what of things pushes out the why into
Selfish pride causes what to become why, and who, also,
gets stuffed into what. That is how idolatry rears its ugly head in ideas as actuality where intelligent aptitude is misinterpreted
as from the same source as clever neglect. In order to keep order in being released from emotional bondage into responsive
feeling, and being freed from knotted thoughts into sensible satisfied awareness: who is kept first, why is second because
of who, and what naturally follows why.
In our imaginative desires to be wanted and fulfilled, we
define ‘hope’ as wishing instead of trust, ‘faith’ as expectation instead of evidence, and ‘love’
as experiential sensation instead of dedicated devotion. When we place ourselves in God’s hands, He gives to us the
knowledge to understand our thoughts and emotions are our natural reactionary aware-nesses to living and are not who we actually
are as people with a higher purpose.
Without trust through faith for who we and our loved ones
are in Christ our mind cannot tell the difference between yet to be realized realistic goals and unrealistic dreaming. In
God’s reality, as we respond to His leading, our soul person comes to our light of awareness (born again: out from ambiguous
physical instinctual compulsions and into spiritually decisive responsiveness) and we realize we have authority over our environmentally
driven emotions and thoughts.
When a person believes in their thinking drawn from emotional
import, that person is bound to their emotions and believes their thinking is who they are. Since everyone realizes corrupt
thinking needs to cast off its corruption, they assume that education trains the thoughts to bring their emotional well being
into alignment with better ways. It is assumed a sense of belonging requires submission. But, submission ruins respect
for decency. A true godly sense of belonging negates submission to others' wills.
Fact is, the process of manipulating and managing thoughts
to alter emotional stirrings is where the confusion comes from in the first place. This is why people will speak differently
than they think to get what they believe should be; where the pressures to present (or control) an acceptable persona causes
one who is confused to cover what he or she is actually thinking.
Emotional thinking that arises from recognition of one’s
shortfalls, in comparison to other’s appearances, causes ideas of inferiority we hope to hide. “They will look
at me!” “I will make a fool of myself!” attempts to hide fears relies in self-righteous shyness that is
assumed makes up part of our “the world against me”. We fear what people will think of us, and they think of us
less because we are playing to what we think they may think.
Then, we contrive ways to justify our self-doubt with compensating
expectations drawn from our mastery over events and others involved in those events. To search for God’s leading from
a point of view found in our ideas, dreams, and emotionally changing responses to our and others influences, causes a false
spirit of control over circumstances, at the very moment where God is with us to guide our hearts with His loving-kindness.
He certainly does not want us to slander our commitments
to marriage and family in what we allow. But, He is with us even then, to guide our wrongdoing into doing what we do for the
right reasons. When we do what is right, because it is right, what we do will be different from what our emotional thinking
tells us is right. Commitment to attitude has no sense of consideration that attitude founded in commitment enjoys. So it
is that all the nuances of courtship’s outward expressions are God-designed to be relished in their fullness without
embarrassment or shame.
“Everybody wins!” scams are theft scenarios
that give the impression of being the dealings of godly fairness. However, the most valuable God given commodity everyone
has is passing time. Our daily time of living is continually thwarted by satan, using circumstantial delays by demonic sway,
through adversarial bound people. As privacy up-builds trust in distinction separate from public opinion, what we believe
we must conceal from our mate is precisely their business to know and no one else’s business for conjecture.
There is no “Meant to be…” in what people
consider punishment for “not measuring up to expectations” since we are given the gift of choosing to follow,
or not, the will of God in respecting victory over evil. We put forth our efforts in living by using a “what pleases
me” sense of wisdom, instinctual intuitive impulses, to improve ourselves with an ever increasing belief that what we
accomplish in experiences is who we are.
As we collect and discard what we feel is and is not of
who we believe we are, we gradually become less of who we are created to be. When we turn to religion to overcome our errors
of understanding, we impose our accumulated self-purpose into and onto the message of transformation because we are ignorant
to relinquishing our personal vision formed by the world’s perpetual rollercoaster of trauma drama. For points of focus,
we nail to soap boxes the feet of those we place in roles that exemplify an out-casting of our self-perpetuating grief.
Dramatic presentations such as movies, television, music,
and sports are designed to take a person through emotional reasoning that attaches one’s ideals of right and wrong with
social expedience. This, in turn, causes a person’s dealings with ‘real people’ in ‘real life’
to pivot round a screen play where others are categorized into roles associated with representations displayed in a melodrama.
There comes an impulsive demanding to mold others to fit roles one views as fitting in their fantasy schemes of experiential
validation and advancement.
And, out-of-context overdriven accumulation of volatile
intensities drives out sensibilities beyond their capacity and leaves an increasing emptiness that screams to be further filled.
Untoward demanding such as this antagonizes the actual realistic working identities of who we and others have within us to
be. Common is belief in a vague (but often forceful) fatalism people use to explain away out-of-hand issues and situations
we find our abilities unable to understand and/or overcome.
Statements like, “God allowed it, so it must be His
will”, “They don’t care”, and “They got what’s coming to them” are not from the
wisdom of God through His grace and mercy in response to our faith in Him to overcome those same out-of-hand issues and situations.
God is not the author of the evil underlying schisms, betrayals, and all the various ills of our people throughout the ages.
People cause the problems because we are slack in allowing His Authority through our will of effort to override dark, subversive,
The unknowing blindness most people experience is the use
of others to fight ourselves. When we work to have others think well of us it causes us to ignore our shortcomings rather
than working on being less selfish. The Bible says God has difficulty forgiving us if we do not forgive ourselves. But, we
must not forget where we tend to use others by putting them down to build our own defenses. To avoid seeing false hope as
faith, work to eliminate emotionalizing your living through past/future, light/dark, and right/wrong switching in your mind.
While we are saved not by works, but by grace through faith,
it reasonably follows we are not condemned by our works – our separation from life in Christ is by fear through doubt.
When our thoughts bring emotions in response, our thoughts respond to our emotions and creates a cycle of fantasy of living
unto ourselves that does not react to the reality of who God created us to be with respect to our various places with others
in the moment of moments as each day progresses.
Living in the false wisdom of right and wrong through emotional
thinking is a manifestation of the knowledge of good and evil - the fallen nature of the world. Growing into healthy faithful
living is not the procedure of focus in letting go of recognized wrongs, it is in recognizing and actively accommodating choices
based in a word of promise. Feelings are not emotions. Feelings are our honest and natural reactions and responses to the
world around us.
So, we need not worry what someone else will say or think
about our convictions and beliefs - about what we want to do or do not want to do. If we have something to say, we should
feel free to say it. If we have something to do, we should feel free to do it. The light of life and its fullness in expression
should never consider another’s emotions – while we are respecting who each and everyone else is, unto us, in
Christ unto God.
What He has prepared for us is different, and more gratifying,
in ways that what we expect to receive from Him is not and cannot be. Most people do not know that God has a particular plan
for them, so they do not trust the moments unto Him as He has promised to guide the faithful as they live. Waffling indecision
is the mistake behind the fear of making mistakes and dwindles the precious moments of life away. It comes from viewing money
as God’s answers to the imbalances in relational will(s), binding one’s senses of prosperity and use of others
to the cheap and convenient.
Trust God to know what He is doing to bring His witness
through our activities. This allows us the freedom to encourage and assist others in their strengths rather than working against
their difficulties because of our annoyance over the wrongs we and others are bound to. It is worldly wisdom, not faithful
obedience to God, where people use complacency and self-satisfied posturing in touting “positive progress through the
school of hard knocks”.
Again, feelings are not emotions. Feelings are our natural
reactive responses to oneself, others, one’s surroundings, and God. Emotions are our physically mortal instinctual reactive
responses to internal and external stimuli while feelings are motivated by our immortal soul knowledge awareness. Without
understanding the difference through trusting in God in faith in the Gospel of Christ, it is very difficult if not impossible,
to keep the intensity of emotions from overshadowing our feelings.
To take personal authority over the fears associated with
folding into peer pressure, only decide to do what you want to do at any given time; no matter what another or others want.
If what you decide to do is in agreement with others’ desires, then all is well with the understanding to be matter-of-fact
honest with your mate about anything that arises from choices with others. If you do not want to do whatever it is you do
not want to do that another or others want, then simply and honestly abstain from compliance no matter any consequences.
This is another area where God’s design in matrimonial
vows has His power of Authority through the joint authority of a man and woman in marriage to hold any others to respect and
dignity. Emotions rely in comparisons between the past and the future, both of which are never now, and feelings rely in trusting
the present in response to actuality through faith. Appreciating feelings, rather than being driven by emotions, lets us more
securely stay in the moment and do as we wish with less confusion about why we do what we do, whatever it is, no matter what
anyone outside the marriage thinks or does about it.
God says He would rather we be hot or cold because if we
are lukewarm (two faced; with hyphen, 'two-faced; and without, 'twofaced') He will spew us out of His mouth. Through practice,
we learn to help others where they need help instead of identifying with their difficulties and conflicts. Our helping of
others not our spouse is not to be considered a bond of commitment with those others because the work(s) is(are) done for
God, for Christ’s sake. Living through the emotions of ‘what was not’ and ‘what should be’ while
holding others responsible for their own failures, is an attempt to stabilize our expectations. It is easy to be honest about
what is right we choose to do.
Furthermore, it is extremely difficult to be honest about
what is wrong we choose to do, so we bind ourselves to separate and additional wrongs in various ways to hide our wrongs as
if they are right – most often by making wrong of the right of others. Obligations are inherently never based in presumption
because obligations, by their nature, are declarations of promise. The vows of matrimony supersede all other accountabilities,
so there is a sense of defensive esteem involving a married couple that does not ignore, but upholds, other’s rights
to respect their grace of detachment.
Overlook who people believe they are to trust God and His
grace and mercy. Being in the now by responding to exactly what we wish to do in all circumstances allows destructive processes
of the cycle of emotions and thinking to fade away and be replaced by the joy of life in the reality of God’s goodness.
Experiential and fulfilling warm emotions come and go dependent upon circumstances. Love, however, is an all encompassing
commitment – not dependent upon have and have not.
With respect to Christ’s resurrection, and the ongoing
promises of emotional/spiritual harbor within a marriage, Jesus became our “garbage dumpster” (the term ‘garbage’
has a root meaning: worn out old clothes) on the cross and we become the same for our spouse – knowing that our responsibilities
for each other in Him provides intervention. Philippians 4:13 says: “I can do all things through Christ, which strengthens
me.” The more difficulties anyone has in living, no matter what the situations are, the more help they need to overcome
their separation(s) from dignity with whom they are dedicated.
There are only three God blessed authorities in human living
where He designed people to honor Him in making decisions for (do the thinking for) any other human being(s): A man who is
a husband to his wife, a woman who is a wife for her husband, and parents for their underage children. Steadfast self-sacrificing
dedication, in response to God’s promises regarding loyalties and devotions to our loved ones, is often seen by self-serving
situational opportunists as a pathetic blind obsession. A man and woman, their marriage, and God Himself, cannot be much respected
with anyone in the background “calling the shots”.
We have the moments of a day to be thankful for the vitality
of our awareness as God, by His Son through the power of the Truth of His Word, the Holy Spirit, is alive and vibrant through
our being. Let God be God through our efforts. He knows better than we do the reasons for the tasks and experiences He has
for us to accomplish. Traditional wisdom says, "Where there is a will, there is a way." Christian wisdom says, "Where there
is a Way, there is a Will." With no hidden motive, we realize hope is not an imagination. It is where to be glad is better
than to be happy.
Marriage, according to the Gospel, represents the two edged
sword of the Word of Christ. One edge condemns our revealed wickedness of the heart on the Cross, while the other lifts us
up into the Resurrection of the Glory of God's Wholeness. Thank God for your husband. Thank God for your wife. Thank God for
their challenges because each of us is a challenge. In all situations and conditions, help your mate help you, with God’s
help, working through strife into victory.
of my major shortcomings - I'm vindictive. I don't know why that is, Even in petty things in my life I tend to strike back.
It's a lot more pleasurable a sensation than feeling threatened." ~ Andy Rooney
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