#1 - “God puts a certain person in our lives for a reason, and whatever reason that God had in mind for putting
you into mine… I don’t mind… I’m just thankful He did.”
God does not put people in our lives “for a reason”; at least not
in the Old Testament way of prophetic dispensation. Everyone is born with God’s reasons in their heart of hearts for
each their own will to appreciate His will in giving the light of life. While each person has a natural grace of living consciousness
that may lead to decisions in allowing God to be Who He is in their lives, God promised humankind the right to choose his
and/or her own will in whom, and who is not, in their life.
The common appeal to cast sensible consideration to “everything happens
for a reason” implies (but does not mean) that if a situation exists, it is or was supposed to exist. Things can occur
for wrong reasons as well as right reasons. Because things occur for wrong reasons (because people are choosing not to be
obedient to the goodly Authority of God) it stands the test of muster that everything happens because people are influenced
in one way or another through their will, to do what they do – or be where they are.
Luke 11:9-10 says, “And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you;
seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asks receives; and he that seeks finds;
and to him that knocks it shall be opened.” So, God through the power of His Son’s Word of promise, the Holy Spirit,
responds to our requests with His unworldly wisdom. Though we may be surprisingly delighted with the person God sends to us,
He does not cause a surprising happenstance we were not expecting in faith.
Also, because He has promised to not interfere with a person’s will, His
sending of someone to us might be thwarted by that person or others who withhold or delay in some way their place with us.
We must always be cautious about personal entanglement to trust in faith that God will see the moments through. Satan listens
to our prayers and ‘loves’ to give to us answers that seem to be what we are seeking. If not the wrong, one as
if he or she is the right one, then our own perception may be clouded to see wrong as if it is right or right as if it is
The magical mysteries of mystical ironic chances and astounding coincidence
are solely in the realm of demoniacs to bring wrong meanings of diversion when God works His hand to arrange timing and events.
However, since the devil is not the victor over peoples' lives (even though it seems he is in much of the world), any chance
meeting that may have been devised by the deceiver also is a chance, together, to spit in the eye of that dastardly dumbbell
to make a Godly union in spite of his fruitless ploys.
#2 – “Being loved is the second best thing in the world; loving someone is the best.”
Being loved and loving someone is sharing the oneness of togetherness God promises
in His Word that His love entails. Any love shared between a man and woman is the one love of God that makes the two the unity
of one in their respect for each other unto Him. Loving considers, embraces, and tends to any difficulties an intimate partner
may have because expecting perfection can only be done through the honest ownership of inconsistencies, foibles, and problems.
This is why intercession in prayer does not stop with personal prayer, it continues with sharing, and dealing with, all that
one may be in their particular life.
God is able where we are and where we are not. When it is genuine love in and
from Him through faith to honor His creative expressions of joy unspeakable, there can be no categorizing of what love by
who is best or second best. Gratitude and appreciation in prayerful thankfulness to God for our joys as well as our shortcomings
allow us to realize that each of us is not an island of self determination. Being personally cared for gives to us the pleasures
to know we are special in a special way that is especially and uniquely us.
When fears set in that perfection in unity requires the work of tending to retaining
or re-attaining the experiential acknowledgement of God’s presence with our mate (day-to-day natural struggles of living),
we sometimes forget that we must not use God to bring to us our happiness in ways where we automatically think of Him as our
servant/provider to levels of pleasurable maintenance. He wants us to honor Him rather than take Him for granted to feed our
emotionally prideful desires in expecting Him to honor us because of His Word.
#3 - “If a relationship is truly meant to be for you, your love will find a way to make it happen and God will
be there to make sure it will stay.”
“Meant to be…” is a statement of faith in the doubt of irresponsibility
that places obedience to authority in the hands of a patterned self perpetuating pride in existence arranged by the cosmos.
“Cosmic force” is an imaginary concept that attempts to emulate God but removes the essence of His personal Word
of faith. Only God’s love can make anything secure and assuring happen. Our own expressions of His love through our
hands are distorted by experiences, disoriented by our surroundings, disillusioned by our circumstances… and, mostly
embittered by adverse demonic pressures bent on ruining the works we endeavor to do.
Belief in “relationship” as a practical separate way in experiencing
personal togetherness aside from marriage is not in God’s will in Jesus Christ to honor His natural ways of private
intimate interrelations. God’s patterns of plans by which He created all ways of being that uphold the fabric and matrix
of the world’s teeming life has, for people, commitment by a word of promise (marriage vows) to trust Him in, and through
His faith, the moments of togetherness we are commissioned to share when we choose to be one with another.
God is God and His Word tells us we may exercise our free will as His gift to
us to choose our way in life. Because each person has the opportunity to live unto Him in Christ, there is not one person
better than another. Paradoxically, there is a certain person God is mindful to see us with as a mate while anyone we choose
that is not that person “takes their place” and puts ‘that one’ into the position of finding someone,
unto God, who will be that one instead of “that one”.
#4 - “If you can’t love me at my worst, you don’t need me at my best…“
A self-protective guilt-laden scheming ultimatum such as this is an immature
attempt to say the opposite: “If I cannot love you at your worst, I don’t need you at your best.” It reflects
a loss in perspective due to frustration, emotional wallowing in disappointment, and distrusts that God is alive and well
and in control in the face of a moment’s drama and import. This sort of sidestepping one’s own need for God’s
forgiveness combined with responsibility for another unto Him is a way to evade, elude, or escape what is overwhelming.
Many times conditions that seem to be upsetting or hindering are not in
any way . Many times they are when they seem not to be. The way to know the difference is to realize what we personally expect
to accomplish or get and if another actually is aware of our expectations. Living, at all times, is a life and death matter
where our human flesh instinct responds to a ‘fight or flight’ reaction to what is perceived as beneficial or
destructive to what we believe will secure our peace and prosperity. As our flesh person accepts that our creature is who
we are, we believe our thoughts and emotions are the personification of our needs.
At the same time we pass off the passing of time with future expectations based
in opposition to past pains and troubles in ways that reinforce our looking for pains and troubles we can analyze to meet
our way to avoid pitfalls. In this way, our thinking and emotional intensity drives our actions and decisions to screen others
into a relational control where we defend our existence at the cost of trusting that there is more to life and living than
our capsulated categorical requirements will allow.
This is why who we are unto others by and through who we are in God’s
created will in Christ is different from who we have been taught to believe we are of and unto the world. So, it naturally
follows that our humanistic thoughts, and our humanistic emotions that respond to our thoughts, and the further thoughts that
respond to our emotional reactions to the first thoughts; are contrary to our health and well being in choosing whom we will
do what we do with, and why we do what we do with whom.
#5 - “Don’t be scared that you won’t find anyone else who will love you, because you will…
when the time is right.”
A day gone by is a day gone by. To string days together, as if time has a flowing
purpose of intent to teach the lessons of patience through the pains of hardship, is a dishonest diversion from the responsibilities
patience has to hope and pray that another (one known or unknown) and/or one’s self
may find their senses to respond to their place with loving their loved one. Astrology and the horoscope depend on
swindling sorrowful lonely hearts to excitedly wish for a “Thank my lucky stars” appeasement to salve an aching
emotional “Why me!”
“Why me!” is because there are evil forces emanating from those
dark ones who despise the love of God to be the love of humanity in all God created humanity to be. As love is thought to
be the opposite of hate, though it cannot be because God has no opposite, fear is thought to be soothed by finding the yet
to be found or lost love one is pining to be blessed with receiving. When it is understood that God’s blessings in companionship
are not to alleviate the fears of not being cared for, it is also understood that we are created to appreciate our lives in
sharing by helping our loved one overcome what seems to be binding them against themselves and others.
As people have a limited time to live, there are stages from childhood into
adulthood where the yearning to be an adult is a natural, goal oriented expectation, to look forward to doing well for the
self and society. The time for meeting one who will be an intimate partner of togetherness, where we share the open trust
we hold in reserve for “that one”, finds its fruition with adulthood when we are free to marry. After that, the
time is always right to choose to be one with another.
#6 - “Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t
love you with all they have.”
Nobody should love anybody with all they have unless they are married. And,
in marriage, the loving of one’s spouse with all one has is a love that loves God in Jesus Christ through their partner
as Jesus loves us unto His Father. (Ephesians chapter 5) Love is not a way that serves another’s whims of particular
selfish desires. Love is a complete acceptance of the person, no matter what, where there is ultimate concern to openly work
conflicts through to their resolution.
This can be done, and it is God’s will of desire for it to be done, by
realizing what the vows of marriage say and mean. If it were not possible, then God would not be God and nobody would have
any reason to care. Since love is an acceptance of God’s will over personal self-protection (only with one’s spouse),
because each a couple’s body belongs to the other, unified shared concerns find their constructive joys of togetherness
in appreciation, growth, and maturity.
When the reasons for mood, temperament, and caring volatility are understood
for their adamant defense of one’s spouse, any adverse situation can be seen to address issues of great concern. To
put stock in what is thought of as negative attitude, as the reasons for any subsequent decisions about a matter, diverts
an issue away from the issue that causes the great concern.
When there are habitual self-defensive patterns based in emotional manipulation
brought from one or the other’s upbringing where attitude control was the solution to peace at any cost, there comes
the dire need to allow God to be Who He promises He will be to bring forth the honesty needed to take the wind from the sales
of distress. The purpose is not to form behavior into compliance (because appropriate behavior will naturally result) the
purpose is to resolve hidden difficulties to where trust is kept established.
#7 - “I love you, not because you are perfect, but because you are so perfect for me. “
Who each of us naturally are is much better than any-who we are trying to
make ourselves out to be. Usually a popularly physically attractive man or woman will automatically generate several
crushes of admiration that fashion emotional desires to possess that handsome beauty. We are drawn to things and people who
are pleasing to the senses. An old address to this is, “Beauty is only skin deep.” It is true that a generally
attractive, or unusually attractive, person is as much a child of God as anyone else, and choosing one or another who is a
visual delight to be with can be an ongoing pleasant joy.
Because the world takes value in the visual qualities of materialism, especially
in this technology age where we can form and have beauty at will from the forming work of our hands, there are untoward senses
of unwarranted value placed in appearances. Given this, the “personal psychological baggage” a handsome man or
a beautiful woman carries has been formed by users using the use of objectivity. In like manner, a physically unattractive
or just plain ugly man or woman carries their own “personal psychological baggage” that has also been formed by
the same people for the same reasons.
These same people are the same people who are the physically attractive and
unattractive people. These people are you and me because everyone buys into, to some degree, personal valuations of self and
others based in their general and specific appearances. Noticing what pleases the eye in appreciation, and responding to our
desires to have and to hold what pleases us is not wrong as long as we take into account that our personal flesh creature
person’s desires may not override the unworldly spiritual desires of our soul person.
This same respect for the order of priorities, of any person’s soul person
to guide their flesh person, must be respected and applied concerning everyone else. Who anyone is in Christ has everything
to do with how to properly manage our thoughts and emotions about who we and everyone else is in their respective place(s)
unto us according to God’s promises combined with the promises we make to each other. Rest assured everybody’s
appearances in the hereafter will be quite different from our flesh bodies whether or not we are running against the grain
of God’s righteous judgment.
#8 - “Love is everything it’s cracked up to be… It really is worth fighting for, being brave for,
risking everything for.”
God is everything He says He is. People are mostly not what they say they are
through their own saying to be what they desire. In Christ, people are who He says they are while nobody is fully who they
are in Him, being in the temporal flesh. Because God is love, our worldly wisdom of understanding the meanings of love fall
short to our own demise of God’s perfection in His Being-ness of Personified Love for us through Jesus Christ. Popular
belief in what love is is not what love is. God is worth fighting for. People are worth fighting for. Marriage unity and defense
of God through fighting for a man and/or woman of marriage is worth fighting for. Love is the power behind that fighting.
#9 - “You will never know true happiness until you have truly loved, and you will never understand what pain
really is until you have lost it.”
Searching for happiness and to be happy is not the goal of life and living as the
racketeers of economic commerce want us to believe. Happiness comes as a by-product through respecting our responsibilities
under appreciated authorities. When happiness is our reasons for being with one, or another instead, we are losing who anyone
may be to us and for us as we are losing who we may be to them and for them. “Oh, how precious is the “journey”
of personal discovery over lasting commitment…”
Pain is not a requirement to better well being. Painful lessons learned in life
do teach us to be wary, cautions, and self protective to where we understand to be the same for others – but, not necessarily
so. Destruction, hardship, pain and suffering are all things that our time of living can do without. Those things are also
the same denials of God’s loving-kindnesses that Jesus Christ paid the price for on the Cross in our behalf so that
in faith in Who He is we may avoid the troubles worldly wisdom deems necessary to teach the lessons of maturity and social
#10 - “When I saw you I fell in love. And you smiled because you knew. True love is not something that comes
everyday, follow your heart, it knows the right answer.”
God is always on our side because He is always on His side. We are not always
on God’s side. But, in Him, we are always on our side together even though we are not able to be Holy wholly as He is
being God. He does not hold against us what we hold against ourselves and others.
We hold against Him our grudges to begrudge our grudges. Within this emotional quagmire to have things “our way”
as if it is God’s way, we fall in the concepts of what we believe love can do for us and in the process overlook the
reality of why our love interest is interesting to us.
So, we expect our attractive partner to measure up to ambiguous standards we
cannot fathom to genuinely explain because our confused thinking depends in a false faith in yearning to realize what we do
not emotionally have. Spiritualism, the excitable responses to stimuli that disguises itself as our heart of emotions, retains
its mis-defined meanings when love is thought to be the building of fond collections of memories.
Memories, and our having given ourselves to the situations that formed them,
reinforce our ownership over the pride of living through invasive stimulating sensations brought to us by and through interactions
with people who give to us personal attention. Our fond memories of pleasant experiences (or experiences we wish we had had)
lead us to believe that the essence of love is its draw to lift us up into who we are loving to be loved or being loved to
#11 - “In a relationship, there’s always someone who loves more than the other.”
The fallacy of quantifying an amount of love as in, “How much do you love
me?” denies that love is that it is just as God is that He is. There may be one person giving more personal non-self
focused attention to another than the other is giving forth, but that has nothing to do with loving more or loving less. Loving
is not how much one or another does or does not show or do; while an outpouring of love’s symptoms may put out an eagerness
to give selfless attention to another.
Being thankful to God for another is good. Being thankful another is pleasing
is good also. But, being thankful that another is pleasing, is to be thankful to God that He is ever-present, at all times,
no matter where anyone is; to be always ‘there’ to lead and guide our expectant joys in reality. To thank God
for the existent presence of another, as if we are personally and specially considered over others who are somehow less significant
in God’s schemes of the universe, is where faith in action unto salvation gets lost to the doubts of loss if circumstances
become less personally pleasing.
#12 - “Don’t find love. Let love find you. That’s why it’s called falling in love, because
you don’t force yourself to fall — you just do.”
People cannot actually find love. People in their right places in the Body of
Christ are love as He is Love through faith in action unto Him for Who He is in us for His glory. God’s particular plan
for anyone seeking personal satisfying love from another human being resides in His respect for us in His hand of creation.
As we are created in His image, in, of, and by the Word of commitment to Truth, our duty is to cleave to His Truth of Spirit
in our relying in His promises that become our promises of marriage that are promises in faith unto Him.
Nothing of reality just “happens” as if there is a blind following
of supreme haphazard fate that leads us from one life’s scenario to another. We shouldn’t expect things to happen
because they are supposed to happen. Respectfully asking of our loved one our desires is an honor, just as sharing our personal
concerns over the negatives we wish to hide is also a respectful honor. God requires of us to ask of Him, and continue asking
of Him, so that we do not take Him for granted; and so that we always know He respects us in our right to exercise His gift
of our personal will.
In like manner, since we are created in His likeness, (His likeness being based
in the word and following through with respect for that word) it is a blessing to follow Him by doing as He does in respecting
our mate with the trust to not be taken for granted. The three ways we can be assured to not be taken for granted are: One
- Avoid keeping any secrets by saying what we mean and meaning what we say. Two – Always ask. Three – Do not pressure
load opinion against God’s leading between and betwixt you and your mate by consulting with others outside your mate’s
#13 - “It’s not that I can’t live without you, it’s that I don’t even want to try.
Don’t settle for the one you can live with… wait for the one you can’t live without.”
No matter who it is with whom we may become involved there is an ever-present paradox
that gives to each of us the integrity to always be in decision to stay the course of honor and decency regarding steadfast
loyalty to the vows of married promise. It is God Who backs our promises with His promises no matter our own ability and/or
desire to tow His line of determined absolute victory. This is where the adversary of God, the adversary of His desires for
our happiness and well being in Him, works most proficiently to undermine our faith with contrary belief systems commonly
In our topsy-turvy mixed up world it is extremely difficult to know who is someone
we can live with and who is not - based on the assumption any one person is “this way” or “that way”.
Since everyone is not who they are unless they are becoming who they are by following their constantly changing growth of
understanding of what the Gospel witness means to them, nobody is anyone one can live with. And, at the same time, anyone
is somebody one can live with. Everything depends in actions to share a common faith that is centered in the wedding vows.
Furthermore, as the transformation from independent single persons is brought
to the independence (aside from others not of the marriage) of shared togetherness in decision making, we must change.
#14 - “The heart wants what it wants…. There’s no logic to those things. You know you truly love
someone when you want them to be happy even if their happiness means that you’re not a part of it.”
The heart of a man and a woman is separate as “me” thinks of itself
as inherently deserving self established customs. Individualistic wants thrown off to an autonomous absolute right to have
and be causes deliberate binding to one’s actual reasons to be all one may be in spirit and in truth. We know we truly
love someone when we understand what that loves means through God’s clear leading by and in His active voice in each
of our inner heart for Christ.
When we are concerned with a loved one’s happiness we understand that
our own happiness with their happiness is a shared honest understanding that what makes God happy is for us to work together
through the troubles of a day. He is not happy when dishonesty disrespects our duties to be openly trusting in Him by humbly
allowing our love interest to know all there is to share we may have. Proper decision making can only find its execution to
bring desired welfare for a couple when there are no hidden motives and alternative ways and plans.
#15 - “Lovers do not meet somewhere along the way. They’re in each other’s hearts from the beginning.
To love is to have someone special, one who you can always depend to be there through the years sharing laughter and tears
as a partner, a lover, a friend.”
To believe that a lover, (a marriage partner) is present in one’s heart
from the beginning serves to strip that ‘loved’ person entirely of who they are as a blessing from God’s
respect for a man and woman who appreciate their common interests as well as their differences. Aside from that, all souls
were created at once - in the beginning. Faith in trust applied from the core of one’s heart is not to ignore a mate’s
responsibilities to be forthright. As God does require our acknowledgement of Who Jesus Christ is for our acceptance of His
eternal life of truth in living, it naturally follows this same following of Christ works with appreciating who our loved
one is in Him.
Everyone is special is special ways where only each person’s unique existence
finds his or her place faithfully in the Body of Christ. We do, through the presence of mind to faithfully ask God for a companion,
meet whoever it may be His answer to our prayers brings. Christ came to redeem humankind from the fall of Adam and Eve out
of the Beautiful Garden, where the two as one of their marriage was torn asunder by satan. God in Christ provides the dynamic
life giving answers to the miseries of personal relationship that has kept this world in tragedy and war since the dawn of
#16 - “A nightmare? Hardly….. he gave me two tears of happiness, which is two more than a lot of people
get. Love is, giving someone the power to break your heart, but trusting them not to.”
Much of the New Testament was written by the Apostle Paul; a man who knows and
tells us in his writings that living for God in Christ is never too much trouble to be a blessing from God. When the light
of Christ’s presence crosses paths with a man and woman together for the purposes to be a witness of Him in marriage
and what marriage means, it is an automatic beacon that draws the anti-christ powers of hell and its corrupt domain to attack
those truly in love at the very core of their lives and love.
Left untouched is nothing in the earthly realm in order to subvert and ruin
the pathways of spiritual completion the combined souls in marriage share. Economics, expectations, circumstances, situations,
jealousies, envies, carnal emulations, cheating, sneaking, lies, covers, strife, habits, backbiting, defenses, depressions,
spite, wallowing, resentment, fighting and so on are the problems others will thrust upon a true upstanding couple who marry
for true love.
One may say, “Why get married then?” Because, if one or another
shirks marriage to avoid the battles marriage naturally brings to defend the honor of the people involved to defend the honor
of God in Christ, they are folding into the soul losing destructive ways the devil wants to begin with. The “god of
this world” lost his place to have the world as he took it in and through Christ’s Resurrection. But, because
people are yet to, one and all, turn their lives over to the Giver of Life for His well caring, satan steals and uses his
way through the authority of the will of people in their dealings with other people.
#17 - “To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return. To just give.”
Respecting the one we love is to respect their own will, moment by moment, to
choose as God respects the same. However, when we are responsible unto God for our spouse, we do have expectations for maintaining
our quality of living that requires honest cooperation to know and be known. Knowing the depths of the negatives our partner
has, as well as the positives we like to pretend is all of who we are, allows our commission to intercede in word, deed, prayer,
and devotion for their sake for God’s sake.
God’s blessing He has for us, (Luke 6:36-38, Be ye therefore merciful,
as your Father also is merciful. Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn
not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven: Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure,
pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete
withal it shall be measured to you again.) cannot find their avenue into our hands when we are denying the reasons He has
to bestow upon us His bounty.
#18 - “Love can happen anywhere at any time and almost always when we least expect it…”
When the definition of love is thought to be “making love” it can
happen, and does, all over the world all the time. And, it happens when people least expect it if they are bound to denying
their naturally created steadfast commitment to marriage with one with whom they may relish in trusting, no matter what, their
hearts and lives together. Longevity in sharing God’s love takes work worth the effort for not only flesh-life achievement
but also for our soul(s) eternal health. It is not only for our own respect and integrity; it is, as well, for God’s
desires for us to be strong and endure the trials and temptations the world throws our way.
Sex is not love. Sex is the intimate sharing based in human reproductive pleasures
to tell us that God was well pleased with His creation of us as people. He did not intend for people to fall into dishonoring
His beauty of peace and well being the way they have. He does not allow the evil and suffering that is in the world, people
do by allowing their chosen authority in Him to be diverted elsewhere. Enjoying the pleasures of sexual expression is not
wrong nor is it against God’s purity of righteousness to be pleased with sharing, responsibly, being intimately involved
with one which we enjoy sharing our time. It is not what we do that causes problems, it is why we do what we do, and being
honest about it solely with our mate, that resolves any problems we may unintentionally (or intentionally) fabricate.
#19 - “Love me when I least deserve it, because that’s when I really need it.”
Love, as the gift from God of His life for us is never deserved. He and He alone
dispenses His Being through His Work of Word on the Cross via the Prophets’ proclamations and by witness via His chosen
peoples’ ventures for the purposes of our acceptance of and for His Life in and through us via His Resurrection in Victory
over all things contrary to His Goodness, His Purity, His Loving-kindnesses, His Truth of reality, and His reasons to share
His Majesty and Glory with those who understand His merit is the only merit that has merit for acceptance.
To say that love is a commodity that can be negotiated for use depending upon
whether or not one or another is deserving of love denies the reasons love exists. Economized and dispensed love held or given
dependent on need or reward leads to excuses to cast aside a loved one because of supposed insufficiency or lack of generosity.
It serves a “cut and run” use of people as supply tools who are accused of contrariness to God’s will when
precise unexplained whims of fancy are not met to perfection. Right becomes wrong and wrong becomes right when the right suffer
for the wrong who feel justified in their casual clipping off in departure away from dutiful responsibility.
#20 - “You never really leave a place or person you love, part of them you take with you, leaving a part of
God has the whole world in Christ’s hands. In Him there is no distance,
or past, concerning anyone. There, is His just requirement that any wrongdoing existing is personally carried within a marriage
by a husband for his wife who is one with him… and a wife for her husband who is one with her. That is whether either
of them are acknowledging Christ’s responsibilities in their hands as a charge against His death on the Cross. It is
also until He is asked for forgiveness to acquire His grace and mercy through His Resurrection.
However, one may ask His forgiveness for a continual sinning of abandonment
and remain without the fruits of grace and mercy because a matter is not yesterday where its resolution has yet to occur.
False pride in believing separation and distance means no responsibility, based in the moments past being gone, is twisted
logic that denies who each of us is in God’s broad and all encompassing schemes of deliverance His way and not humankind’s
ways. Decisions. At attack is our will to decide with one we love who is one with us in marriage to love God in spirit and
This is speaking of soul driven corruption, rather than flesh driven corruption,
where purposeful spiritual intent makes all the difference between acts of instinctual immorality we may tolerate in patience
and longsuffering; and vitally urgent, more intolerable acts of willful, knowledgeable, spiritual defiance where flesh immorality
is used to purposely tear at the foundations of faithful dependence in God’s plans of redemption. However, even in this,
the deceiver pushes to convince that the unpardonable sin has been repeatedly committed in order to dissuade those he keeps
deceived into continuing on as if they have no choice.
One after another, if a person were to “love ‘em and leave ’em”
in a mutual rip-off, pleasuring in the great thrilling carnival ride of sensation called progressive development, the parts
taken with you and the parts left behind with each eventually will spread everyone out into a collective consciousness without
any identity or reasons for the experiential journey. This anti-christ collective of interpersonal ‘relationship’
imitates but does not reflect the distinctive unity of the Body of Christ. It is unity of the death He put to death in His
Crucifixion that will be judged, by the Father Above as enemies of His Son of Compassion.
#21 - “Don’t cry because it is over, smile because it happened.”
Sin is separateness from the will of God as applied in seeming confidence through
our own will. Sin is always our reasons for sinning rather than the sinful acts we call sin. Most people are unaware of the
reasons for their sinful acts in their reactionary blindness that centers on the emotional intensity sinful acts find through
the traumas associated with having been deceived into betraying respect for authority. Nothing is ever over until God says
it is over and the way He does things in His decisions is not the wisdom and understanding most people believe it is.
Common is the belief that people either mesh well or they have irreconcilable
conflicts. When a man or woman is habitually pleased with the newness of discoveries in priority to the efforts necessary
to work through and solve problems and difficulties, for love’s sake based in their vows of promises together unto God,
they work to increase areas of conflict in ways where the underlying goal is to start over in experiencing the newness of
discoveries meeting and relating with another person involves.
Our day to day habits cause us to apply to people what we apply to items. We
buy a paper towel, use a paper towel to clean up a mess, and throw away the paper towel. We do the same with shoes, with clothes,
with jobs and employees. We do the same with personal intimacy and integrate the natural philosophies of “the good of
use and onto another to use” in how we wrongly define love and hatred. “I love my ‘whatever’ as long
as it suits my purposes.” “I hate my ‘whatever’ when it ceases to suit my purposes. “No harm
done.” ”No problem.” “Get another one, I deserve it!” “After all, there has to be something
better out there somewhere…”
#22 - “The ultimate test is to disagree, but still hold hands.”
There is no test. Rating one’s worthiness is a substitute for trusting
that Jesus Christ paid the price for our unworthiness once and for all. It is the working out of our honesty in trust that
there is nothing to withhold, right or wrong, from our mate. We married everything about our spouse just as Christ died in
reconciliation for everything about each of us. He passed the test of tests for any of our foibles, discomforts, and malicious
ways in our stead so that we may be open and honest for His sake, for the sake of “that one” we hold dear according
to His created expectations.
We may love and be loved without reserve through our open trust that, no matter
what, we will not be rejected but upheld in our sharing. Every moment is a moment unto itself just as every day is a day of
its own. There are no times of memory, good or bad, that can be upheld as superior, or more important than any other. The
reason for this is the moments that bring pleasing circumstances and situations are a blessing to that moment’s sharing.
The next moment has its own situation that gives to us the opportunity to once
again display our sacred affection giving recognition that our one of the two of who we are is as important now as it ever
was or will be. God in us, through faith in Jesus Christ, is that He is that we are, because He is that He is… always
in the now.
#23 - “The greatest feeling in the world is love, but the worst feeling is to love someone and not be loved
Stirred up mixed emotions are not the same as the responsive natural feelings
any situation before us contains. Reactive thinking is not the choosing what to think because of our ongoing decisions to
trust God by, in, and through our promise to Him to trust our mate in Christ. Spontaneous impulsive decisions arising from
our emotional thinking to desire more of the same is what people generally call love.
This warm fuzzy traumatizing of the internal senses of awareness is why “love”
is difficult to explain in terms one’s pride of self preservation is able to understand. It also requires a negative
counterpart to sustain its false legitimacy we wrongly call hatred, for hatred in its proper use is only a hatred toward and
for evil, we use the term to offset our props to uphold our belief in false love as if it is the love we are searching to
experience. We end up transferring our proper hatred for evil into a false hatred for people.
The problem is, our endeavors to experience for ourselves what we believe is
love, is why our definitions of love are terribly amiss. Love as thought of separately from God, as the creator of selfish
emotional validation in our intimate privacies (meaning any other ‘love’ is not love at all), is not the dependable
straight-line commitment to truth in steadfast open devotion in marriage. Our personal dynamically alive Creator God the Heavenly
Father, in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, continually provides for the asking, as we encounter the issues and ways of living
our lives through faith in Him, along with ‘that one’ to whom we marry.